Choosing to love someone who is being unloveable is loving like Christ loves. Never have I seen this truth more clearly than in the last several months. Never have I seen how far I have to go to be like Him. You see, Christ chooses to love me (and you) even when I am unloveable. Christ chose to love we who hated Him, rejected Him, and treated Him shamefully. A child who joins your family through adoption will need you to choose to love them through the lovable and unloveable times.
Because there will be both scenarios (lovable and unloveable) in your adoption story, may I encourage you? Choose to love. It will make all the difference.